How The Fear Of Saying Something Wrong Can Cause You To Say Everything Wrong

Filed in Articles by Michelle Walling by on March 18, 2018

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When The Fear Of Saying Something Wrong Causes You To Say Everything Wrong

By Michelle Walling, CHLC

Fear. Everyone is talking about it and it is the one thing that everyone knows they need to overcome. Fear is a vicious cycle of repetition and in order to break the cycle, we need to understand how it works. Fear of speaking can cause severe communication issues in relationships with other humans, and seems to be coming to the surface to be recognized.

In particular, let’s look at an example of deep seated childhood programming of our parents telling us that we were always saying or doing something wrong. We heard “no” more than any other word as a child. It’s how parents keep their children safe or from hurting themselves. There really isn’t any way around our past upbringing.

Our parents had an obligation to tell us what not to do based on their life experience. They usually had a say in what classes we should take in school and tried to help us figure out what we wanted to be when we grew up. The problem is, if you are like me, they never would have realized that you would not have an ordinary life or job in the future.

Whether we realize it or not, never being able to say the right thing or do the right things as a child carries over into our self confidence as an adult. If there is one thing besides self love that sabotages us, it’s self confidence. We were also controlled and programmed in school and with our government telling us what to do and what not to do.

Having fear of not saying the right thing or of being accepted can have the effect of throwing a person into reverse ego. Through the law of attraction, not saying your truth is will attract exactly the opposite of what you want. You lose the ability to make decisions and therefore lose control of your life. When you lose control of your life, you become more controlling to try to make up for the out of control things that you end up suffering for.

On the other hand, we have to be careful that the ego doesn’t take control and make us seem like a narcissist. In other words, we do not want to sound like we know it all and are always right. We do not want to disregard other’s thoughts and opinions but want to be able to respectfully iterate how we see something or how we are feeling.

As we become more conscious of our behaviors, we can notice that there is a balance that keeps the negative ego and the reverse ego in check. As long as you stand in your truth but also respect other’s feelings and truths, then everyone could get along nicely. The problem is that one person’s truth of who they are and how they feel my be completely distorted because their beliefs were rooted in fear to begin with. While they would like to “be themselves”, who they have created from that origin of fear may not be in their highest and best interest. That’s when you really have to “know thyself” in order to be yourself.

This is where letting go of the fear of what people think and speaking from the heart in a respectful manner will change the energy of any conflict. You can never go wrong with this. Everyone on the planet sees and interprets what is happening differently. If everyone treated each other like they would want to be treated, then this conflict of words would no longer be an issue. People would be able to act and speak in a loving manner, never worrying about what other people think as well as never ignoring how another feels about what they have said. If everyone could see the thread that connects everyone, they would never be afraid of expressing themselves, and they would never do it in a way that would hurt another.

On the New Earth, the collective works with each other to create new ideas and ways of thinking and living. At first, we may use words to have meetings and we will need to be able to express ourselves and unify thoughts and ideas in order to manifest. Because we won’t be controlled and we will have been healed, it will be easy to work together in harmony and to see the power of what we can create when we come together.

If telepathy were to become in fashion on the New Earth, then there would be no misinterpretation of words. There would be no misunderstandings and no one would hold a fear of what they say being “wrong”. We may have a long way to go for this unless we learn how to time jump into the future. On the new Earth, there are no secrets. Your energy gives off your intentions and there are no hidden agendas. If you slip up and think something negative or harming, you can receive healing and counseling to find out what self sabotaging thought brought about the dis-harmony. The main recourse is that you would automatically feel it in yourself when you direct it toward someone else.

Being afraid of speaking our truth is one major issue that we are all seeing as we learn to live with each other differently. You could say now we are practicing for the New Earth. It is difficult to practice this when other people do not. This makes us want to only be with like minded people who are practicing the same thing even more.

This comes into play even more if we have a fear of public speaking. As we near more tangible evidence of a shift, we may be called upon to explain to others about what is happening. We may also be called upon in the future to share what it was like to go through the shift in energy while existing on planet Earth. You may think that you will not have a problem speaking once we are not in the energetic space we find ourselves in, and that may be true. However, you can think about the confidence you will have in the future and bring it to the present in order to help you speak with integrity now.

It is difficult to be willing to look at your own actions and behaviors to see if you are coming from a loving place or from fear. Looking at yourself through non judgment is a start. Observing how others react to what you say will be a gift. Are they reacting in defense or fear back to you, or are they open, loving, and caring? What you put out will come right back to you, especially now as we move closer to a new way of living. See everything as an opportunity to grow and change, and whatever you do, don’t sit back and wait for something or someone to do it for you.

Finally, do not overthink how you are acting or speaking. It does take practice but our relationships, families, and friends, provide a mirror for us to gauge how we are coming across with our energy through words. This does not mean that you will allow someone to talk over you or to disregard your own truth. As long as you are truly coming from your heart and being aware of how you are being received, you are doing the best you can in the reality we find ourselves in at the moment. If there are no hidden motives, (even subconscious behaviors), and as long as you are being respectful to another’s feelings, you should be able to get along just fine on the New Earth or any other planet!

About the author:

Michelle Walling, CHLC is a Holistic Life Coach specializing in starseed support. She is an international public speaker, writer, webmaster, and radio show host. In 2013, Michelle started writing spiritual, metaphysical, and esoteric articles for Michelle is the webmaster for, and Michelle is the host of the Cosmic Awakening Show and hosts conferences and workshops in the U.S. and Europe. Michelle’s personal Facebook page can be found here. To contact Michelle or to book a session, please visit


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